I have created this page because I get constant
requests for "love" spells. So, instead of retyping the same
information over and over, I will refer these inquiries to this
I feel that it is far wiser to learn from the mistakes of
the past and the pain of a broken heart and simply move
I always tell potential clients "Hey, why don't we do
spell work to help you fix the personality issues that
caused the breakup in the first place? Why don't we help
you find someone new? Hey, why don't we do spell work
to help you build better communication skills? Surely that
will help you make the best of any relationship, right?!"
But people are always fixated on THIS person. "But, I
love HIM!", or "I can't live without HER!". "I will just DIE if
SHE doesn't come back to me!".
But it's just not true. People DO move on and heal
and find love again. Yep. It happens every single day. It
can happen to you, if you will quit pining over the person
who didn't have enough respect for you to not cheat on
you... the guy who lied to you, or beat you, or the woman
who didn't have enough respect for you to stay with you
through a difficult time.
People invariably expect me to empathize with them
when their partner has been caught cheating (often
multiple times) and/or lying, using drugs, gambling away
the rent money, etc, etc. and yet they think this is all going
to change once I wave my wand at him or her. Yikes. Talk
about an unrealistic, childish viewpoint.
Ever heard that expression "Lose the zero and get
with a hero?" It's true. It is equally true for both men and
women. Guys, find a woman who will always tell you the
truth, even when the truth is painful. Ladies, find a man
who will be truthful with you. Furthermore, your partner
has to RESPECT you. This means that
A) you must be someone worthy of respect. So,
perhaps we should do spell work to help you become the
ideal partner. This is the wise path. But it is not the instant
gratification that most people want, so it's not what they
are willing to accept. Then,
B) He or she must be the type of adult who
demonstrates respect for others, in general, and you, in
This type of partner is not terribly easy to find, but
they do exist and they are not some rare, exotic creature.
There are a bunch of them. You just have to look.
You might consider spell work to help you locate and
identify someone who matches this description, instead of
wasting your energy on someone who has already proven
themselves to be a selfish, immoral, cheater. Hmmm? Any
Here are the ground rules you need to know:
* I will not cast a spell on a particular person for you,
unless that person is willing. That's sort of a catch-22,
though... ain't it? There are a few exceptions but they are
* I rarely, if ever, do reconciliation work. If he broke up with
you, then there was a reason for that. Either you did
something wrong or he did. Either way, you are far better
off moving forward into the future. Leave the past behind
* I never do love work pro bono (for free). No exceptions. If
you are seeking love in general or trying to salvage a
relationship that has not officially terminated yet, I might
set a light for you at no charge, but I will NOT do any spell
work for you for free. Your love life is important, but you
are not going to die of a broken heart. Nobody likes to hurt
in love. It sucks. But you can roll over and die, or get up
and learn from your mistakes. Take back your self-respect
and make a relationship that can last, with someone who
is actually worthy of your heart.
* Don't ask me to make someone stop cheating on you. If
they cheated on you once, there is about a 90% chance
they will do it again, given the chance. I don't change
people who have not given me permission to change
them. It's very hard to change the nature of an unwilling
individual. And it's wrong.
* I am not prejudiced against the nature of your
relationships, except for 1 kind of relationship... cheating.
I despise cheaters.
I am totally OK with any of these:
Polyamorous Couples, Triads, etc
Monogamous Married Couples
Monogamous Committed Couples
Casual, Consensual, Adult Relationships
Basically, I am fine with anything except that
which involves lying, deceiving, or any manner of
non-consensual sex, non-consensual pain
or non-consensual control.
If you are having sex with someone who is married or
in a relationship and the other person's partners are
unaware and it's obvious that they would disapprove, then
you are a cheater.
I really and truly don't care if you are single. If they
are not single, then you are cheating. You are the "other
man" or the "other woman". I hate those people. I get up
on my soap box and no, I won't step off of it for you. You
suck. Stop being a jerk and then maybe I will try to help
Have a little courage and honesty. If you want Bob
and Bob is married to a woman that doesn't want him
having sex with other people, then either he has to leave
her, or she has to change her mind, or you have to stop
messing around with him.
Otherwise, don't ask me for help... because you
AIN'T gonna get it. If you are just crazy about Janet but
Janet has a boyfriend that doesn't know about you, I will
not cast a spell to make her leave him for you. I will just
tell you to grow up. So, don't waste my time. Please.
Seriously, people. I get these childish requests on a
weekly, if not daily basis. It's sad.
Now, if you did any of this in the past and learned
from it, stopped doing it and vowed never to do it again,
then I will not judge you. We all make mistakes. Nobody is
perfect. But if you are actively deceiving someone, then I
have no patience for you. Go away. Come back when you
have grown up. I do have respect for people who actually
learn from their mistakes and who exhibit the courage to
break off a relationship that is hurting someone else.
Notice I said hurting someone. Now, you might say
but Bob's wife doesn't know about us. She doesn't have a
clue. So, we're not really hurting her. Bullshit. If you have
children or a pet, then think about this. If someone is
abusing your child or your pet behind your back (whether
it's sexually, physically or both), how do you feel about
that? Would it be good enough for you to simply not
know? If a child molester creeps in the bedroom and there
is no parent to hear him, does he actually make a sound?
So, if that bothers you, then I imagine you probably
don't want someone screwing your relationship partner
without your consent either. It would HURT you deeply, if
you knew about it... wouldn't it?
And my point is that it DOES HURT you... even if you
don't know about it. Because it means you are living a lie.
Do you want someone else turning your life into a lie?
Then, don't do it to anyone else. Duh.
The people who cheat are hurting others, for their
own selfish gratification. It's cowardice. I don't help
cowards. Don't ask. Now, all this may seem strange to
you, me going off on this rant about infidelity. But I mean it
when I say that I get WAY too many requests for break up
work, "please make him/her stop cheating on me", etc. It
makes my head hurt.
It's very simple people. If you want to have sex with
more than 1 person, then find yourself a partner who is
OK with that. There are plenty of them out there and today
we have thousands of websites where you can find them
all together in a single place. Poly is fine. Cheating is not.
If you are a cheater, don't ask me to help you. If you are
married and now you realize that you want more than just
your partner, then your partner must be the FIRST person
to know about it. Anything less is cowardice and fear.
Love, real love, and monogamy are completely possible
and you can be happy with these. But it's not for
everyone. If it's not for you, then don't trap yourself with
promises you cannot keep. Find an alternative. Those are
available as well. You can have anything you want, if you
If you are a sincere, honest person who just needs
help in your love life, I will be glad to try and help. Tell me
what you are looking for and I will try to help you achieve
that. Honesty takes strength and strength is sexy. So don't
be a little bitch liar. Be a sexy, honest adult :-)
I am not really a Thelemite, but here is a place where
it's highly appropriate to quote "Old Uncle Al" ...
"Love is the Law.
Love under Will"