I have created this page because I get constant requests for "love" spells. So, instead of retyping the same information over and over, I will refer these inquiries to this page.
I feel that it is far wiser to learn from the mistakes of the past and the pain of a broken heart and simply move forward.
I always tell potential clients "Hey, why don't we do spell work to help you fix the personality issues that caused the breakup in the first place? Why don't we help you find someone new? Hey, why don't we do spell work to help you build better communication skills? Surely that will help you make the best of any relationship, right?!"
But people are always fixated on THIS person. "But, I love HIM!", or "I can't live without HER!". "I will just DIE if SHE doesn't come back to me!".
But it's just not true. People DO move on and heal and find love again. Yep. It happens every single day. It can happen to you, if you will quit pining over the person who didn't have enough respect for you to not cheat on you... the guy who lied to you, or beat you, or the woman who didn't have enough respect for you to stay with you through a difficult time.
People invariably expect me to empathize with them when their partner has been caught cheating (often multiple times) and/or lying, using drugs, gambling away the rent money, etc, etc. and yet they think this is all going to change once I wave my wand at him or her. Yikes. Talk about an unrealistic, childish viewpoint.
Ever heard that expression "Lose the zero and get with a hero?" It's true. It is equally true for both men and women. Guys, find a woman who will always tell you the truth, even when the truth is painful. Ladies, find a man who will be truthful with you. Furthermore, your partner has to RESPECT you. This means that
A) you must be someone worthy of respect. So, perhaps we should do spell work to help you become the ideal partner. This is the wise path. But it is not the instant gratification that most people want, so it's not what they are willing to accept. Then,
B) He or she must be the type of adult who demonstrates respect for others, in general, and you, in specific.
This type of partner is not terribly easy to find, but they do exist and they are not some rare, exotic creature. There are a bunch of them. You just have to look.
You might consider spell work to help you locate and identify someone who matches this description, instead of wasting your energy on someone who has already proven themselves to be a selfish, immoral, cheater. Hmmm? Any takers?
Here are the ground rules you need to know:
* I will not cast a spell on a particular person for you, unless that person is willing. That's sort of a catch-22, though... ain't it? There are a few exceptions but they are extremely rare.
* I rarely, if ever, do reconciliation work. If he broke up with you, then there was a reason for that. Either you did something wrong or he did. Either way, you are far better off moving forward into the future. Leave the past behind you.
* I never do love work pro bono (for free). No exceptions. If you are seeking love in general or trying to salvage a relationship that has not officially terminated yet, I might set a light for you at no charge, but I will NOT do any spell work for you for free. Your love life is important, but you are not going to die of a broken heart. Nobody likes to hurt in love. It sucks. But you can roll over and die, or get up and learn from your mistakes. Take back your self-respect and make a relationship that can last, with someone who is actually worthy of your heart.
* Don't ask me to make someone stop cheating on you. If they cheated on you once, there is about a 90% chance they will do it again, given the chance. I don't change people who have not given me permission to change them. It's very hard to change the nature of an unwilling individual. And it's wrong.
* I am not prejudiced against the nature of your relationships, except for 1 kind of relationship... cheating.
I despise cheaters.
I am totally OK with any of these:
Polyamorous Couples, Triads, etc
Monogamous Married Couples
Monogamous Committed Couples
Casual, Consensual, Adult Relationships
Basically, I am fine with anything except that which involves lying, deceiving, or any manner of non-consensual sex, non-consensual pain or non-consensual control.
If you are having sex with someone who is married or in a relationship and the other person's partners are unaware and it's obvious that they would disapprove, then you are a cheater.
I really and truly don't care if you are single. If they are not single, then you are cheating. You are the "other man" or the "other woman". I hate those people. I get up on my soap box and no, I won't step off of it for you. You suck. Stop being a jerk and then maybe I will try to help you.
Have a little courage and honesty. If you want Bob and Bob is married to a woman that doesn't want him having sex with other people, then either he has to leave her, or she has to change her mind, or you have to stop messing around with him.
Otherwise, don't ask me for help... because you AIN'T gonna get it. If you are just crazy about Janet but Janet has a boyfriend that doesn't know about you, I will not cast a spell to make her leave him for you. I will just tell you to grow up. So, don't waste my time. Please. Seriously, people. I get these childish requests on a weekly, if not daily basis. It's sad.
Now, if you did any of this in the past and learned from it, stopped doing it and vowed never to do it again, then I will not judge you. We all make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. But if you are actively deceiving someone, then I have no patience for you. Go away. Come back when you have grown up. I do have respect for people who actually learn from their mistakes and who exhibit the courage to break off a relationship that is hurting someone else.
Notice I said hurting someone. Now, you might say but Bob's wife doesn't know about us. She doesn't have a clue. So, we're not really hurting her. Bullshit. If you have children or a pet, then think about this. If someone is abusing your child or your pet behind your back (whether it's sexually, physically or both), how do you feel about that? Would it be good enough for you to simply not know? If a child molester creeps in the bedroom and there is no parent to hear him, does he actually make a sound?
So, if that bothers you, then I imagine you probably don't want someone screwing your relationship partner without your consent either. It would HURT you deeply, if you knew about it... wouldn't it?
And my point is that it DOES HURT you... even if you don't know about it. Because it means you are living a lie. Do you want someone else turning your life into a lie? Then, don't do it to anyone else. Duh.
The people who cheat are hurting others, for their own selfish gratification. It's cowardice. I don't help cowards. Don't ask. Now, all this may seem strange to you, me going off on this rant about infidelity. But I mean it when I say that I get WAY too many requests for break up work, "please make him/her stop cheating on me", etc. It makes my head hurt.
It's very simple people. If you want to have sex with more than 1 person, then find yourself a partner who is OK with that. There are plenty of them out there and today we have thousands of websites where you can find them all together in a single place. Poly is fine. Cheating is not. If you are a cheater, don't ask me to help you. If you are married and now you realize that you want more than just your partner, then your partner must be the FIRST person to know about it. Anything less is cowardice and fear. Love, real love, and monogamy are completely possible and you can be happy with these. But it's not for everyone. If it's not for you, then don't trap yourself with promises you cannot keep. Find an alternative. Those are available as well. You can have anything you want, if you are honest.
If you are a sincere, honest person who just needs help in your love life, I will be glad to try and help. Tell me what you are looking for and I will try to help you achieve that. Honesty takes strength and strength is sexy. So don't be a little bitch liar. Be a sexy, honest adult :-)
I am not really a Thelemite, but here is a place where it's highly appropriate to quote "Old Uncle Al" ...
"Love is the Law.
Love under Will"